Kristi and Mark met on an airplane 15 years ago. They’ve been married for 11 years. Kristi’s first husband died young from cancer. It had been five years since his death, and Kristi’s family and friends were encouraging her to explore the possibility of another relationship. Mark was separated and in the process of divorce[…]
Our beloved cat, Little, died. He was 14. While I try to remember all the sweet and loving times with him purring in my lap – and I do part of the time – I remember the last day when I found him and he was nearly dead already. I was shaking so badly I[…]
My Son Turned 20 My son turned 20. I’m so proud of him. He’s thoughtful and kind, and has a great group of longtime friends that he listens to and supports. He treats his girlfriend and her family well. He’s in college and going to culinary school. As a parent, these are all reasons to[…]
Infertility and Miscarriage Some couples have a tremendously hard time having children. And after many tries and losses, certain couples can benefit from infertility and miscarriage couples counseling. It seems that some women can get pregnant so easily (maybe even when they didn’t want to be), and sail through the months, and have a nice,[…]
When Under Stress, Do you Fight, Flight, or Freeze? While we are human beings capable of thinking, many of our stress reactions do not come from our thinking, or cortical, brain. They come from our limbic, or emotional, brain. Why We Exist We still exist as a species because of this ability to react. Threat[…]
Married People Seeking Affairs In a story revealed by Wired, hackers accessed the files of about 32 million users of the site AshleyMadison.com. According to Ashley Madison, their website “is the most famous name in infidelity and married dating, with the tagline “Life is short, have an affair.” Wired reports that, “The files appear to[…]
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Follow-up to a Love Script Earlier I posted A Love Script, A Dyadic Encounter: Arthur Aron’s 36 questions to answer with another person in order to fall in love. On my February vacation, I asked my husband if he would be willing to go through the questions with me, both to write about here, and[…]
What Is the Biggest Cause of Strife in a Relationship? This is the question that both men and women have been asking me recently. The topic is big enough to warrant a book, yet I will tackle it in short form. My hope is that this will give you several things to think about as[…]
Marriage Interview 5: My Spouse is Not a Mind Reader Thelma and Henry met at a dinner held by friends of theirs. They began dating and were married within the year. That was 50 years ago! Anger and Learning One of the biggest problems they have had is that anger is very scary to Henry.[…]