Dear Mom, I’m at Camp Kesem

Dear Mom, I’m at Camp Kesem Dear Mom, I miss you so much. I’m at Camp Kesem, a place for kids and teens who have a parent with cancer. Mostly they have activities like any other sleep over camp, make friends, and climb on the counselors. But tonight they have Roots, where they share their[…]

Infertility and Miscarriage Couples Counseling

Infertility and Miscarriage Some couples have a tremendously hard time having children. And after many tries and losses, certain couples can benefit from infertility and miscarriage couples counseling. It seems that some women can get pregnant so easily (maybe even when they didn’t want to be), and sail through the months, and have a nice,[…]

First Holidays after the Death of a Loved One

First Holidays after the Death of a Loved One      I’m not going to tell you that the first holidays after the death of a loved one are going to be easy, or offer platitudes. The first holidays after the death of a loved one can be very difficult.      You miss him or her,[…]

Highly Educated Women Moving to Silicon Valley/Bay Area

Highly Educated Women Moving to Silicon Valley/Bay Area It seems there’s a continuing influx of people from around the country and the world to this area. Many families move to Silicon Valley and the Bay Area for a job that’s been secured by the husband or wife, (more often the husband, based on the phone[…]

Five Do’s and Don’ts for Surviving Miscarriage

Five Do’s and Don’ts for Surviving Miscarriage Fit Pregnancy magazine recently asked for my expert opinion about finding ways that miscarriage can make you stronger. It’s an excellent article; I enjoyed writing for them to help women and couples. The main point I want to make here: Women: if you’re asking yourself whether you did[…]

Umpqua

Umpqua My daughter died in-utero 17 years ago in the midst of five miscarriages. I have done everything I can think of to keep my son safe (and not smother him in the process). I probably sat by his bed checking his breathing a little more than usual when he was little. And yet, truly,[…]

Better!

Better! I find it very interesting that since I wrote about my grief and fuzzy brain last week, it is clearing up. I am profoundly grateful for this change. Journaling I definitely can’t say it’s a causal link. But I do know from years of journaling that writing things out helps me make sense of[…]

Seven Months Since Mom Died

Seven Months Since Mom Died I really miss mom. I find myself talking to her sometimes; telling her how much I love her. I’ve been planting a succulent garden and growing tomatoes. I know she would be glad as she always offered to help me with gardening. So I find myself enjoying it just a[…]

Marriage Interview 9: Make a Date to Have Sex

. . . And Deeply Understand Yourself and Your Partner Make a Date to Have Sex Jessica and Steve just celebrated their 25th anniversary. Steve is 72 and Jessica is 68. They met in 1989 at Hobee’s in Town and Country (incidentally where we met for coffee at Peet’s,) after finding one another through ads[…]