Connect2 Marriage Counseling

Author: chandrama

  • If You Don’t Ask, S/he Can’t Say “Yes”

    True story. An attractive, smart, single, working young woman – can you say eligible, what the heck are you waiting for — told me recently that she wishes guys would approach her and strike up a conversation. Let’s see, what do you have to lose? Maybe you’re shy. Maybe you’re a geek. Maybe she’ll say…

  • From Crazy in Love to Love of My Life

    When we were courting (yes, I know that’s an old fashioned word), we were on our best behavior without any effort. We were trying to win over our beloved. S/he was the most amazing person we’d ever met. So beautiful/handsome. So sexy. Our hearts beat faster just thinking about each other. We couldn’t wait for…

  • Couple’s Net

    I am very pleased to announce that the Connect2® Marriage Counseling Blog is now being published as “Couple’s Net” on Palo Alto Weekly’s Palo Alto Online, The Menlo Park Almanac, and the Mountain View Voice. You’ll be able to post comments, ask questions, and participate in discussions on any of those venues. I would love…

  • Emotional Forensics

    If you’ve watched a crime show or read a mystery, you know the investigator looks at the crime and then works his or her way back to figure out what happened, and thereby solve the crime. I am suggesting that you do emotional forensics on yourself (and not on your partner — let him or…

  • Personal Weather Report (TM)

    Your partner can not read your mind, and my husband can not read mine, either. You actually have to say what’s on your mind. One homework exercise I like to give is to have couples give each other a Personal Weather Report (TM) once or twice a day. This is also helpful in finding specific…

  • What’s Your Story?

    If you are like many couples, you may think and act as if your partner learned and experienced life exactly as you did. And therefore should react in the “right,” “normal,” or “expected” way. Are you surprised, incensed, or astounded at how he or she reacts to behavior or words that seems different than what you…

  • Couples Therapy: Professional Opinion of “Hope Springs”

    I realize that Tommy Lee Jones has been in a lot of movies. I see many movies with my teenage son, and so when I saw Meryl Streep with Tommy Lee Jones, all I could think of right off the bat was, ‘Agent K.’ I think many people wish they had a neuralyzer to use…

  • The Long Form of Yes or No

    Isn’t is hard to just say “Yes” or “No”? Just notice, over the next week or so, how you answer questions that could simply have Yes or No as an answer. Notice when you do say Yes or No, and what situation is going on in which you go into a long explanation for Yes…