June 16, 2015


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Here are some of the most common questions about counseling. I hope this helps you make a decision about starting with me at Connect2 Marriage Counseling,

  1. My partner doesn’t want to come in for couples counseling, but I do. What should I do?

Please come in – I can help. I will ask if you want the counseling for the marriage or just for you; the therapy is a little bit different depending on your answer. I will tailor your counseling accordingly. You can feel better and improve your relationship. And as you feel better, your relationship improves, too.

  1. Do therapists tell me (or us) what to do?

I am here to help you understand and learn about yourselves and each other. I teach tools and skills that last a lifetime: you will outgrow me (of course you may come back for tune-ups whenever you want). I am here to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings so that you can make decisions in ways that will help you feel better. So no, I won’t tell you what to do but will support you as you explore your options, and help you discover options you had not considered before.

  1. I’ve always handled everything myself. Why go to therapy?

The research shows that talk therapy can help many people. Some clients come because they have tried everything they can think of, and are still not happy. Other clients look to therapy because they are seeking deeper meaning in their lives or a greater sense of peace. Each person already has the inner resources; I help you bring them out. Plus the support and teaching of an unbiased third party – who cares about both of you and your happiness, can make the process easier.

  1. Will I feel better after therapy?

Often a small course change can lead to feeling loved, connected, heard, and understood again. You will know yourselves better, and make better choices for your marriage as well as for yourself.

The clients that make a commitment to come to their appointments, have the will to stay the course, work on their relationship, and do the homework they agree to, will achieve results and feel better. It is true that there will be difficult times along the way. That’s a normal part of the process.

My job is to support you with compassion, teach skills and tools, and not take sides. I’ll ask for your feedback as to how the counseling is going. Together, we will discuss how therapy is progressing so that I can provide the best service to you.

  1. What is Wrap-Around Couples Therapy?

Wrap-Around Couples Therapy is an arrangement in which the couple has a therapist and each partner has his or her own therapist. The couple allows all three therapists to talk and coordinate their care. This leads to saving time and money.

The individual therapist provides extra support for the wife or husband, while also supporting the couples work. The couples therapist provides balance and support for the couple, while also supporting the individual work being done.

Wrap-Around Couples Therapy Is Effective

What I have observed is that couples counseling is boosted as each individual has the support of his or her own therapist in the process. Issues that come up in the couples or individual sessions may be shared among the therapists and addressed in the appropriate setting.

For example, it may come out in the couple setting that one partner feels ignored and one feels criticized. This feedback to the individual therapists allows those issues to be worked on simultaneously, moving the couple’s work ahead. Another example may be that an individual feels his partner is not quite up front in sharing the situation at home with the couples therapist, and that therapist can highlight the issue to her therapist plus the couples therapist to further explore.

If you want to work through your marital issues with care, compassion, efficiency, and by doing the work it will take, Wrap-Around Couples Therapy is a great process for you.

  1. Do you have weekend and evening appointments available?

Not at this time.

  1. What do you charge for therapy?

As a highly trained, seasoned Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I will be direct here – if you want low-cost counseling, I am not your option. My rate is $250 for each 50-minute session. Couple’s sessions are 75 minutes or $375 per session. If you have questions about the fees, please feel free to contact me at 650-847-0030.

  1. Do you take insurance for reimbursement?

I do not take medical insurance. If you choose to be reimbursed by your insurance, I will give you the necessary paperwork.

Please note that in order to use insurance, you must be given a mental disorder diagnosis which will now be listed on your medical records. Some clients do not care about this, and others do. You could be asked about this on a job application or life insurance application in the future.

If you do decide to use your insurance, I will provide a Super Bill for you to seek reimbursement from your insurance company. Each insurance company has different policies and percentages of reimbursement, so call your insurance company to ask what they will reimburse. The code I use for couples is 90847. For individuals the code is 90834.

I accept checks, cash, credit cards, or HSA card for therapy.

  1. What happens in the first session?

At your appointment time, I will greet you and invite you into my confidential “online” office. I will invite both of you to share your story and listen as you explain why you are seeking help at this particular time. My goal is to help you feel loved, connected, seen, heard and understood in your relationship. I will find out from you what is not working and teach skills and tools to work together to make it better. Generally clients come in weekly, but your schedule for counseling will be worked out with with me.

  1. Do you work with other issues besides relationships?

Yes. I specialize in other areas such as imposter syndrome, stress, anxiety, grief, illness or other life stressors. My goal is simple: I want you to feel loved, connected, seen, and heard.

  1. What if I have more questions?

I am here to help. Please call 650-847-0030 if you have more questions.

  1. How do I get started?

I’ve made the scheduling process easy. You can either contact me with a little bit of information about yourselves (including your phone number) at canderson.connect2@gmail.com and I’ll call or email you back, or you can call 650-847-0030 and get you scheduled.

I look forward to meeting you.

If not now, when?

You don’t have to go through this alone.


Let’s get started.


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My Services

  • Marriage Counseling and Couples Counseling
  • Wrap-Around Couples Counseling
  • Individual Counseling for Couples work
  • Individual Relationship Counseling
  • Premarital Counseling
  • Co-Founder Counseling