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  • Premarital and Couples: How to Stop an Argument

    How to Stop An Argument Follow these simple steps to stop an argument: 1. Close your mouth (really, it works! But read on . . . ). 2. Make the “T” for time-out signal with your hands. 3. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt (his/her intention is useful, even if the impact on…

  • Valentine’s Day: Annually or Daily?

    Valentine’s Day, a very commercialized version of “I love you, I’m thinking of you, you’re the most important person to me,” was three months ago now. Those thoughts are the bedrock of secure attachment. Roses are back to their regular price, jewelry stores are on to their next promotion, and restaurants are serving specials by…

  • Premarital and Couples: Trust Walk

    A trust walk is a process between two people in which one person has his or her eyes closed (or blind-folded), and the other leads them on a walk. The eyes-open person has to be explicit in his/her verbals instructions to avoid any and all obstacles, e.g.”There’s a tree root sticking up a few inches…

  • Premarital and Couples: An Affair Myth: Not Getting Enough at Home

    In her book NOT “Just Friends” Shirley Glass, Ph.D. writes about the research she has conducted about affairs. One result blows away an old myth: That the person having the affair wasn’t getting enough at home. The truth is that the person having an affair wasn’t GIVING enough at home. When you are giving to your…

  • 10 Tips for the Holidays

    These holiday tips are not rocket science. Nonetheless, they are important reminders for good self-care and pacing through the holidays. 1. Make a list of your “family of choice” and spend time with them. Some people on your list may also be your family of origin. Make time to be alone, too, if that suits…

  • Premarital and Couples: Mr. & Ms. Fix It

    Do you ever get into difficulty with your partner because: you want to fix it and can’t? you don’t know how to fix it, so you’d rather not talk about it? you’re busy trying to figure out how to fix it and not listening well? you think you know just how to fix it but…

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