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Category: Death

  • Parents Texting with Kids in the Car

    I see parents texting with kids in the car more and more often now, and it scares me. I am going to be blunt here: Do you want to risk killing your kids, or make it such that they have no mother or father to raise them? What about the kids and parents in other…

  • I Hate Cancer

    I Hate Cancer! I hate cancer. I really do. Don’t you hate cancer? My lovely MIL is at the tail end of treatment; I’m her advocate with the docs and nurses and insurance company. My husband is a survivor, too, and the memories of his treatment and recovery are easily triggered. Friends and clients, my…

  • What if the World Blew Up While You Were Arguing?

    Richard Condie’s animated film, The Big Snit, from the late 80’s, is a hilarious take on the ongoing arguments that couples have while they miss what’s going on around them. The scene begin with the couple playing Scrabble, in which the husband has all “Es” and is thinking what to do. Their habitual arguments lead…

  • Regrets?

    Here’s a follow on to my last piece about focusing on today, and not waiting until tomorrow, which never comes. I received an article that was written by hospice worker Bonnie Ware; she lists the Top Five Regrets of The Dying (which is now a book: www.hayhouse.com/the-top-five-regrets-of-the-dying). Here’s the list without her detailed explanations: “1.…

  • Beware Difficult Topic: Death of a Child

    For some reason, a lot of the books I’ve recently been picking to read on my Kindle end up being about or including the death of a child. Go ahead, and click away now if you want – it is every parent’s worst nightmare. It also is an important part of my work where couples…

  • Time Change

    We’re getting an extra hour of daylight at the end of the day (even though we’re losing it from the morning). I do not want you to work for another hour a day. I want you to spend time with your beloved (without devices). Go for a walk or bike ride, have a meal together,…

  • Miscarriage

    I have been pregnant seven times. I wanted two children. I have a wonderful son who will be 18 this year. My last miscarriage was two weeks before I turned 40 (which was my cut-off date for trying because I was physically and emotionally worn out from the multiple pregnancies and miscarriages). It’s shocking how…

  • The Grace of Nelson Mandela: An Example for Couples

    The more I read about Mandela, the more I am impressed by his grace and humility. He initiated healing – and connecting – conversations with many people and organizations that caused great harm to a nation, a people, and to him, personally. He sets a great example for how couples can treat each other: To…

  • Grief and the Holidays

    All the hubaloo around Christmas and New Year celebrations can be so painful or irrelevant when we’re grieving the death of a loved one, a loss of a relationship, a miscarriage or infertility, a job. It’s so hard to imagine that people are joyous, and that life is moving along — so quickly, while we…

  • Differentiating Grief from Clinical Depression

    The following information is from my book, No U-Turn at Mercy Street: A Memoir and Resource Guide for Grieving Parents. This is applicable regardless of the type of loss you have been through; a death, a divorce, a job loss, etc.   When symptoms of grieving persist as defined by abnormal behavior that threatens your mental…