Category: Power
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“You Gotta Have Balls [to do counseling] . . .
. . . It’s really scary, taking a look at yourself.” A man said this to me yesterday while asking for my help. It is scary, it does take balls (or the female equivalent), it is hard work, it is exhausting, it does mean facing the parts of yourself that you wish would just go…
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“Real Sex for Real Women” by Dr. Laura Berman
I recommend “Real Sex for Real Women” as it is a straightforward, educational, detailed book about sex — and emotional connection. Dr. Berman’s book provides a clear and simple pathway to intimacy and passion for women. She discusses typical problems women encounter and gives solid suggestions for them. My only concern about this book is that while…
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Premarital and Couples: Tips for Hearing (Listening) and Being Known
You just want to be heard and understood deeply. Showing interest in your partner and his or her life leads to a great many wonderful things in a relationship. Below is a list of open-ended phrases for you to experiment with as you talk and listen to your partner (remember listening is not waiting for your turn…
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“Better” Dads and “Re-invigorated” Moms: Happier Couples
I read an article by Rachel Zucker on the NY Times website: “Honey, Let’s Get a Little Divorced.” One thing that caught my attention was Rachel’s wondering why she hears of post-divorce Dads becoming better Dads, and post-divorce Moms returning to set-aside dreams and “finding themselves.” Dad takes charge of parenting more (without Mom’s interventions or criticisms),…
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Premarital and Couples: Mr. & Ms. Fix It
Do you ever get into difficulty with your partner because: you want to fix it and can’t? you don’t know how to fix it, so you’d rather not talk about it? you’re busy trying to figure out how to fix it and not listening well? you think you know just how to fix it but…