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  • Retreat Day

    Do you ever have a retreat day, a day where you just want to stay in bed? Tired, a little cranky. It seems it would probably be better off for those around me to be spared my presence. Nothing really terrible going on. Just a retreat day. Do we let ourselves have it? Do we give…

  • What’s Your Love Language?

    What’s Your Love Language? If you’ve been reading my column, you’ve seen this question. The concept comes from Gary Chapman and his books of the 5 Love Languages. Quiz I would recommend that you start with his online quiz to find out your Love Language. The 5 Love Languages are: Quality Time; Touch; Acts of Service; Words…

  • Repeating and “You” Sentences

    When we say or hear repeating and “you” sentences, it is a sign that we need to slow down. Repeating is a sign that we don’t feel heard, or we feel misunderstood; that our mate is brushing aside our words and the meanings behind them. So we repeat (turn up our volume) in the hopes of…

  • Ray Rice and Domestic Violence

    Ray Rice and Domestic Violence There has been a great outrage and shock for people to see the video of Ray Rice slugging his then fiancé, now wife. We heard about it, but actually seeing it has been powerful to many people, changing their perspectives. We see so much violence and destruction on TV and…

  • Give More

    Give More “We limit ourselves every day without even knowing it, simply by doing what we always do, falling into patterns, not pushing ourselves further. But every one of you has expressive reserves you’ve not yet discovered . . . tap into them, and go further, and give more than you ever have before .…

  • Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play?

    Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play? Are couples interacting and enjoying one another? Or are they living parallel lives, co-parenting, good roommates, going to functions, socializing, but always with others so they are not alone together? Parallel Play Young children play alone, enjoying a box as much as the gift that came in that box.…

  • What is the New Couple’s Paradigm These Days?

    Dear Chandrama, What is the new couple’s paradigm these days? On TV and in movies one seems to see a lot of serial relationships. Almost every character is dealing with an ex, and kids, and the incumbent problems. – Curious Dear Curious, Great question. I am certain that when the majority of people say, “I…

  • Kitten Rescue

    I have been trying to rescue a feral kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it. Or maybe not being able or ready to commit to it. The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is…

  • Still Hurts Now and Then

    Sunday morning in Portland. Just came to this corner cafe for caffeine and to enjoy a Caffe macchiato. The wall art is life-size pregnant women made of fabric. The babe in her womb is upside down with the umbilical cord visible. My heart skipped a beat and my stomach clenched. Even though my son turned…

  • Device-Free Zones/Times

    Dear Chandrama, If we’re having device-free time and device-free places (including TV) in order to spend couples time together, what do we do? — Doesn’t Like Change Dear Doesn’t Like Change, Change is hard. Most of us don’t want to change until the pain of not changing is worse than the fear of change. I’m…