Tag: commitment
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“That Sort of Jab Fell Under the Category of Unnecessary Roughness”
-Claire Cain This line jumped out at me from Cain’s novel. I’m not talking about football. Maybe you know what I mean because you are the recipient of those jabs. Or maybe you’re the one jabbing, and either you know what you’re doing, and keep choosing to jab your partner, or you’re oblivious to your…
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“No, it just explains it.”
“I probably saved you from being seriously injured.”Did he expect her to thank him for that? “So you think that excuses your behavior?”“No, it just explains it.” I read this in a Coatney novel recently, and it struck a nerve. Even without the context of the whole interaction, it’s clear she was nonplussed with his…
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How Did You See Your Parents Treat One Another?
If you want to know how your partner will treat you under stress, watch how his/her parents treat each other. So, why am I asking you this question? Because what you see growing up is set indelibly in your brain; they’re called neural pathways. And because people behave based on their pathways, even if they…
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Are You Having Sex?
Talking with your partner about sex might lead to more sex, and better sex. What’s only in your head about your sexual intimacy? (As distinct from emotional intimacy; which can grow through a healthy sexual intimacy and vice-versa.) Most people don’t talk about sex with their partner. Most people are taught at a very early…
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Supporting your Beloved Partner in Corona Virus Times
It’s possible you each have different thoughts and feelings about the Corona virus and the safety of your family and each other. Maybe you’re on the same page about it. Here’s how to support your beloved. What’s most important is to talk about it with an open mind and curiosity. This allows room for thoughts,…
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Top 6 Reasons to do Online (Video) or Phone Therapy
Top 6 Reasons to do Online Therapy 1. Concerns about Coronavirus or other health reasons; have your sessions as a couple or individual from your home or office. 2. Responsibilities at home that make it difficult to travel to an appointment. 3. Embarrassment about seeking help or anxiety about face-to-face appointments. 4. Traffic, or you’re…
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Premarital: Women Over 50 Do Get Married
Wedding Bells After Fifty by Autumn Marie is a read I recommend. There’s a myth that women over 50 won’t get married, and this book is out to dispel that. Ten stories plus the author’s are presented. The women are from all walks of life, many ethnicities and backgrounds. The overwhelming theme of the book…
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Engagement Rings: Myths and Options
Congratulations on your engagement. (To be well set up for a life of marital happiness, and to learn how to deal as a couple with the curveballs life will inevitably throw your way, seek premarital counseling. This link is a list of things to talk about before you get married. You want to know how each…
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What’s Your Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter to Your Relationship?
Attachment Let’s start with explaining attachment, which is developed in early childhood, with your primary caregiver. Depending on the type of care you received (consistent, loving & dependable; unreliable in when it would be loving and supportive; or often ignored), this leads to one of three types of attachment: Secure (anchor), anxious (wave), and avoidant…
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Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage
Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage This is my new word for the week. A husband who no longer is married to you is a wasband. Does waswife work as well? Do you want to retain your marriage? In order to avoid having a wasband or waswife, you do actually have to work on your…