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  • “That Sort of Jab Fell Under the Category of Unnecessary Roughness”

    -Claire Cain This line jumped out at me from Cain’s novel. I’m not talking about football. Maybe you know what I mean because you are the recipient of those jabs. Or maybe you’re the one jabbing, and either you know what you’re doing, and keep choosing to jab your partner, or you’re oblivious to your…

  • “No, it just explains it.”

    “I probably saved you from being seriously injured.”Did he expect her to thank him for that? “So you think that excuses your behavior?”“No, it just explains it.” I read this in a Coatney novel recently, and it struck a nerve. Even without the context of the whole interaction, it’s clear she was nonplussed with his…

  • How Did You See Your Parents Treat One Another?

    If you want to know how your partner will treat you under stress, watch how his/her parents treat each other. So, why am I asking you this question? Because what you see growing up is set indelibly in your brain; they’re called neural pathways. And because people behave based on their pathways, even if they…

  • Are You Having Sex?

    Talking with your partner about sex might lead to more sex, and better sex. What’s only in your head about your sexual intimacy? (As distinct from emotional intimacy; which can grow through a healthy sexual intimacy and vice-versa.) Most people don’t talk about sex with their partner. Most people are taught at a very early…

  • “A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who won’t give up on each other.”

    Thanks, Kate Stewart, for that quote. No one is perfect. Shooting for perfection takes too much time and energy away from your life. Do things very well; care and work hard, maybe even go above and beyond–to a point. Stop short of perfection and enjoy life. (Ask yourself what is underneath seeking perfection. Was it…

  • Couples and Premarital: Shelter, Harbor . . .

    . . . cover, defend, guard, protect, screen, shield, ward . . These are synonyms for shelter. But what if you feel stuck in the house with your partner and your unresolved issues? Sheltering These are indeed strange times. We have been ordered to Shelter in Place. This can be an opportunity for your relationship.…

  • Supporting your Beloved Partner in Corona Virus Times

    It’s possible you each have different thoughts and feelings about the Corona virus and the safety of your family and each other. Maybe you’re on the same page about it. Here’s how to support your beloved. What’s most important is to talk about it with an open mind and curiosity. This allows room for thoughts,…

  • Taking or Receiving in a Marriage or Relationship

    I’ve been sick with a bad cold that has put me back to basics (sleep, eat). My husband is working FT (at a stressful job). My brother in-law is here this week, and my step-sons, too. Normally, I would be taking care of shopping and meals for all, plus doing my work (not quite FT).…

  • Engagement Rings: Myths and Options

    Congratulations on your engagement. (To be well set up for a life of marital happiness, and to learn how to deal as a couple with the curveballs life will inevitably throw your way, seek premarital counseling. This link is a list of things to talk about before you get married. You want to know how each…

  • Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage

    Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage This is my new word for the week. A husband who no longer is married to you is a wasband. Does waswife work as well? Do you want to retain your marriage? In order to avoid having a wasband or waswife, you do actually have to work on your…