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  • Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play?

    Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play? Are couples interacting and enjoying one another? Or are they living parallel lives, co-parenting, good roommates, going to functions, socializing, but always with others so they are not alone together? Parallel Play Young children play alone, enjoying a box as much as the gift that came in that box.…

  • Are You Communicating More or Less?

    Are You Communicating More or Less? Isn’t it true that everywhere we go these days people are talking, texting, scrolling and swiping on devices? I find myself wondering if we had this much to say before we had these devices? I don’t recall being on our landlines telephones constantly . . . And yet, is…

  • Do More, Faster and Faster. Limits? Not for Me!

    Dr. Stephanie Brown, internationally renowned expert and founder of the Addictions Institute in Menlo Park talks about her latest book SPEED. Interviewed by Chandrama Anderson, MFT, with a couples focus, Stephanie talks about the desire, the lure, even, to do more, faster and faster. Limits? Not for me! As you watch the interview on the Connect2…

  • Kitten Rescue

    I have been trying to rescue a feral kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it. Or maybe not being able or ready to commit to it. The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is…

  • Body Language and Tone

    In “Couple Watching” I wrote about observing couples’ communication through body language and tone. I want to clarify that we can not assume what is going on from what we see. Tone Maybe she’s talking in the ‘tone’ because she’s found that by this point in a given conversation, she can’t get his attention any…

  • Couple Watching

    I love to do Couple Watching. I was getting in the car recently with the window rolled most of the way up, and I saw a couple passing on the sidewalk. I couldn’t hear any words; only her tone of voice and I watched their body language. Tone Couples often complain about the “tone” their…

  • Mother asks About Plural Relationships

    June, thanks for sending in your question about plural relationships. Remember that as I am answering, I do not know these people and can not jump to conclusions about their emotional or mental state. I think the more important question is whether you are happy with your relationship with your son? Are you getting what…

  • The Valley of Heart’s Delight

    The Valley of Heart’s Delight What is now Silicon Valley was originally known as The Valley of Heart’s Delight for its concentration of orchards, flowering trees, and plants. Until the 1960s it was the largest fruit production region in the world. Picture that . . . imagine the scent . . . When I came…

  • Love Means Having Someone to Lose: Engineers Not Exempt

    Formula 1 race driver and World champion Niki Lauda reminds me of a lot of Silicon Valley engineers I’ve met. I saw the movie ‘Rush’ a few days ago with my teenage son, and I was struck by Lauda’s brilliance, calculated risk-taking, and execution (I promise I won’t spoil the plot for you). Lauda initially…

  • Marriage Maintenance

    According to research by Dr. John Gottman, who runs the “Love Lab” in Seattle, most couples wait an average of six years from the time they sense issues in their relationship before they seek help! Yikes! Who would wait that long before taking their car in to the shop? By the time couples get to…