Tag: safety
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Arguing in Public
Arguing in public I went for a walk out at Princeton Point near Half Moon Bay in December. The rain had stopped after pouring the night before, and it was damp and fresh. I watched a Snowy Egret digging for lunch, a powered parasail fly overhead, saw dogs, surfers, couples and families. Pretty soon I…
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Flirtation
“To avoid mistakes and regrets, always consult your wife before engaging in a flirtation.” – E.W. Howe As Mira Kirshenbaum writes in her book, “When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships,” we need to keep the windows and doors of our relationship shut in order to avoid…
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I Can’t Get a Word In
I Can’t Get a Word In Sherry responded to one of my blogs with this concern about “I can’t get a word in,” [my edits included]: ” . . .Women who finish almost every sentence with ‘and’ or ‘but,’ then carry on, endlessly. The only way to get a word in is to rudely interrupt.” She also…
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Parents Texting with Kids in the Car
I see parents texting with kids in the car more and more often now, and it scares me. I am going to be blunt here: Do you want to risk killing your kids, or make it such that they have no mother or father to raise them? What about the kids and parents in other…
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Kitten Rescue
I have been trying to rescue a feral kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it. Or maybe not being able or ready to commit to it. The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is…
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Couples Therapy: Professional Opinion of “Hope Springs”
I realize that Tommy Lee Jones has been in a lot of movies. I see many movies with my teenage son, and so when I saw Meryl Streep with Tommy Lee Jones, all I could think of right off the bat was, ‘Agent K.’ I think many people wish they had a neuralyzer to use…
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Premarital and Couples: Here Be Dragons!
I wrote about the The Four Stages of Competency, that begins with the Unconscious Incompetent, perhaps also known as our unconscious. Jung referred to it as our “shadow” side — the parts of ourselves we don’t know about, and frankly don’t want to face. When I wrote the back cover copy for my Connect2 Personality…
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Marriage Maintenance
According to research by Dr. John Gottman, who runs the “Love Lab” in Seattle, most couples wait an average of six years from the time they sense issues in their relationship before they seek help! Yikes! Who would wait that long before taking their car in to the shop? By the time couples get to…