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Author: chandrama

  • What’s Your Love Language?

    What’s Your Love Language? If you’ve been reading my column, you’ve seen this question. The concept comes from Gary Chapman and his books of the 5 Love Languages. Quiz I would recommend that you start with his online quiz to find out your Love Language. The 5 Love Languages are: Quality Time; Touch; Acts of Service; Words…

  • Repeating and “You” Sentences

    When we say or hear repeating and “you” sentences, it is a sign that we need to slow down. Repeating is a sign that we don’t feel heard, or we feel misunderstood; that our mate is brushing aside our words and the meanings behind them. So we repeat (turn up our volume) in the hopes of…

  • Ray Rice and Domestic Violence

    Ray Rice and Domestic Violence There has been a great outrage and shock for people to see the video of Ray Rice slugging his then fiancé, now wife. We heard about it, but actually seeing it has been powerful to many people, changing their perspectives. We see so much violence and destruction on TV and…

  • Give More

    Give More “We limit ourselves every day without even knowing it, simply by doing what we always do, falling into patterns, not pushing ourselves further. But every one of you has expressive reserves you’ve not yet discovered . . . tap into them, and go further, and give more than you ever have before .…

  • Parents Texting with Kids in the Car

    I see parents texting with kids in the car more and more often now, and it scares me. I am going to be blunt here: Do you want to risk killing your kids, or make it such that they have no mother or father to raise them? What about the kids and parents in other…

  • See Me. Hear Me. Don’t Fix Me.

    It seems so simple. How come it is so difficult to just See me. Hear me. Don’t fix me?  But to see, listen and not fix is harder than to reassure or apologize. Just Get Me and Love Me for Who I Am We need to know our spouse gets us. We are competent, intelligent…

  • Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play?

    Couples: Parallel Play or Interactive Play? Are couples interacting and enjoying one another? Or are they living parallel lives, co-parenting, good roommates, going to functions, socializing, but always with others so they are not alone together? Parallel Play Young children play alone, enjoying a box as much as the gift that came in that box.…

  • Kids and Marital Satisfaction

    Kids and marital satisfaction have been studied a lot. Research “More than a hundred studies show that marital satisfaction falls off a cliff after the birth of the first child and doesn’t get much better until the last child leaves for college,”  writes John Gartner, Ph.D in ‘Child.ol’.a.try’ in Psychology Today. Yikes! How Come Kids…

  • Are You Communicating More or Less?

    Are You Communicating More or Less? Isn’t it true that everywhere we go these days people are talking, texting, scrolling and swiping on devices? I find myself wondering if we had this much to say before we had these devices? I don’t recall being on our landlines telephones constantly . . . And yet, is…

  • Do More, Faster and Faster. Limits? Not for Me!

    Dr. Stephanie Brown, internationally renowned expert and founder of the Addictions Institute in Menlo Park talks about her latest book SPEED. Interviewed by Chandrama Anderson, MFT, with a couples focus, Stephanie talks about the desire, the lure, even, to do more, faster and faster. Limits? Not for me! As you watch the interview on the Connect2…