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Author: chandrama

  • Not Witty or Fun for Families

    As a follow on to the last post, about serial relationships, on TV, at least, it all looks witty or fun, in which the “conversation with their ex, in front of their new spouse while their kids look on soaking it all up” I would venture to say from what I see and hear in…

  • What is the New Couple’s Paradigm These Days?

    Dear Chandrama, What is the new couple’s paradigm these days? On TV and in movies one seems to see a lot of serial relationships. Almost every character is dealing with an ex, and kids, and the incumbent problems. – Curious Dear Curious, Great question. I am certain that when the majority of people say, “I…

  • Kitten Rescue

    I have been trying to rescue a feral kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it. Or maybe not being able or ready to commit to it. The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is…

  • Body Language and Tone

    In “Couple Watching” I wrote about observing couples’ communication through body language and tone. I want to clarify that we can not assume what is going on from what we see. Tone Maybe she’s talking in the ‘tone’ because she’s found that by this point in a given conversation, she can’t get his attention any…

  • Couple Watching

    I love to do Couple Watching. I was getting in the car recently with the window rolled most of the way up, and I saw a couple passing on the sidewalk. I couldn’t hear any words; only her tone of voice and I watched their body language. Tone Couples often complain about the “tone” their…

  • Mother asks About Plural Relationships

    June, thanks for sending in your question about plural relationships. Remember that as I am answering, I do not know these people and can not jump to conclusions about their emotional or mental state. I think the more important question is whether you are happy with your relationship with your son? Are you getting what…

  • I Hate Cancer

    I Hate Cancer! I hate cancer. I really do. Don’t you hate cancer? My lovely MIL is at the tail end of treatment; I’m her advocate with the docs and nurses and insurance company. My husband is a survivor, too, and the memories of his treatment and recovery are easily triggered. Friends and clients, my…

  • “Wanting Sex Again” by Laurie Watson

    The question isn’t IF we will ever have sexual issues, but when. Just as all relationships require work, so will our sex life. And at times, we may need outside help, such as books or counseling. Just like our cars, it’s not IF our car will need service, it’s when and what. We can maintain…

  • What if the World Blew Up While You Were Arguing?

    Richard Condie’s animated film, The Big Snit, from the late 80’s, is a hilarious take on the ongoing arguments that couples have while they miss what’s going on around them. The scene begin with the couple playing Scrabble, in which the husband has all “Es” and is thinking what to do. Their habitual arguments lead…

  • Still Hurts Now and Then

    Sunday morning in Portland. Just came to this corner cafe for caffeine and to enjoy a Caffe macchiato. The wall art is life-size pregnant women made of fabric. The babe in her womb is upside down with the umbilical cord visible. My heart skipped a beat and my stomach clenched. Even though my son turned…