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Couples and Premarital: Parallel Living: What to Do
I received an email thanking me for writing [https://www.paloaltoonline.com/blogs/p/2016/01/28/signs-and-symptoms-of-parallel-living Signs and Symptoms of Parallel Living]. She recognized it in her marriage, and asked me what to do. Here are the steps: Write down 10 feelings you have about it. Here are a few that you might be feeling:a. Lonelyb. Sadc. Confusedd. Angry (always look for…
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“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship . . .
. . . that makes unhappy marriages.” Friedrich Nietzsche Despite the wonderful Beatles song, [https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=all+you+need+is+love+beatles All You Need is Love], I’ll throw my lot in with Nietzsche at this point in my life. Don’t get me wrong, among other things, love is . . . Amazing Critically important Body, mind, spirit, and soul deep Accepting…
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“Breaking the Silence . . . Why Openness About Your Sex Life . . .
. . . is the Best Medicine for Your Health, Relationships, and Overall Happiness” -Moshe Kedan, MD I’m going to share another deeply personal story with you, readers. Notes: 1. All of Kedan’s wisdom goes for straight and LGBTQ+ folks. 2. If you are in an abusive relationship physically, mentally or emotionally, this is NOT…
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I’m Thinking . . . I’m Not Thinking . . .
-Writing Exercise developed by Natalie Goldberg Dear Readers, I’m going to share an exercise I did while in therapy myself many, many years ago. I hope by being transparent and showing you my vulnerabilities, it will help you in some way on your own journey. Today I feel whole, integrated, and have a lot of…
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“A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who won’t give up on each other.”
Thanks, Kate Stewart, for that quote. No one is perfect. Shooting for perfection takes too much time and energy away from your life. Do things very well; care and work hard, maybe even go above and beyond–to a point. Stop short of perfection and enjoy life. (Ask yourself what is underneath seeking perfection. Was it…
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You Can Help: Scents and Migraines
Most people have no idea that scents such as perfume, cologne, essential oils, after shave, deodorant, scented detergents and dryer products, household cleaners, gift baskets, candles, sachets, etc. are triggers for many people that have migraines. It’s called osmophobia. For a brief research overview on this, see Odorant substances that trigger headaches in migraine patients on…
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Couples: Starting National “No Device Night”
Let’s be the first in the nation to select a night each week where we don’t use devices. You spend time as a family, and after the kids go to bed or off to do homework, you spend time as a couple—without devices. You could even pretend you’re living in the days before electricity. Light…
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Our Beloved Dog Died (and now we have a new one)
Our beloved dog died and it brought up old grief. We got a new dog. He doesn’t replace Tarth, but he gets and gives unconditional love; which we all need. In 2010, my step-son Diego was 9 years old. He wrote the following about Tarth, our then seven year-old Papillion: A Day in the Life…
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Coupon for Yourself and Your Partner
This poem – Coupon – was sent to me through a daily poetry email I receive. I got the poet’s permission to share it with you. As you read it, think of yourself and how you might apply it. Also think of your spouse/beloved, and how you might apply to him/her. Next, think of your…
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Taking or Receiving in a Marriage or Relationship
I’ve been sick with a bad cold that has put me back to basics (sleep, eat). My husband is working FT (at a stressful job). My brother in-law is here this week, and my step-sons, too. Normally, I would be taking care of shopping and meals for all, plus doing my work (not quite FT).…