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  • Couples Doubles Tennis

    As a couple, please imagine that you are partners playing doubles tennis in life. This means that the two of you are on the same side. Whatever difficulty you are facing is across the net. Whether these issues are about children, careers, family of origin, housecleaning, chores, caring for aging or dying parents, finances and…

  • Death with Dignity

    Death With Dignity Death with dignity is also known as assisted suicide for those with a terminal illness. I can hardly believe that I am having this conversation with my MIL, the mom of my heart (or mom-in-love, as one of my oldest friends wrote to me). As the pain from cancer throughout her body…

  • Child Loss Group

    Announcing: Child Loss Group for women and men on Tuesdays at 12:30-2PM. The group will be at my office on Lytton St. in Palo Alto. I ask that you commit to 8 weeks of group, and then you may choose whether to continue for another 8 weeks. Start date will commence when we have six…

  • It’s Easier to Love Someone When You Make Them Happy

    “It’s Easier to Love Someone When You Make Them Happy.” I saw this quote in a book I’m reading, and it struck a chord in me. It made me think of all of you. It is easier to love someone when you can see, hear, and feel that you are making them happy. Let me…

  • Step-Family

    Step-Family My four step-sons were here just after Thanksgiving. They are 27, 25, 14 and 11. This was the best time we’ve had together, despite the fact that their grandmother is dying. We went to see them in their natural habitat (Washington State) for a week, and then they came here to be with the…

  • Trying New Behaviors: Fear and Excitement

    Trying new behaviors: Fear and excitement are on the same spectrum. Consider, in an evolutionary context, of hunters making the approach: fear and excitement. Think of current times, for example, preparing for a big presentation that may help you in your career, or trying to figure out what to say to your spouse about an…

  • Giants Won! Couples Can, Too

    Giants Won! Just think: The Giants were the NL wild card team. They had one chance to advance in the playoffs.  And the Giants won! They worked hard, they practiced, they used all of their skills, tools, coaching, and heart. I hope they had fun. It sure looked that way at times. Couples Can Win,…

  • Flirtation

    “To avoid mistakes and regrets, always consult your wife before engaging in a flirtation.” – E.W. Howe As Mira Kirshenbaum writes in her book, “When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships,” we need to keep the windows and doors of our relationship shut in order to avoid…

  • Marriage Underachievers

    Marriage Underachievers I know no one wants to be a marriage underachiever. Would we have low standards for ourselves about our marriage? Whose standards are we using?  Have we discussed what we want, what we need, as a couple? What our roles will be as husband and wife (and our view of the other as…

  • I Can’t Get a Word In

    I Can’t Get a Word In Sherry responded to one of my blogs with this concern about “I can’t get a word in,” [my edits included]: ” . . .Women who finish almost every sentence with ‘and’ or ‘but,’ then carry on, endlessly. The only way to get a word in is to rudely interrupt.” She also…