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Mom Said a Lot

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I’m going to share a piece I wrote in my mid-20s. You will see intergenerational wounds, and part of what I have had to work through in my own life. My husband tells me how amazing it is that I’m “so intact and emotionally available given what I came from”. 

You’ll likely a recognize a few statements you might say now and again to your own child(ren). I hope for you and your kid’s sake that it’s not more than that. If it is, start making changes today.

Please remember it is never too late to work on yourself, to sort through family of origin issues. 

Mom Said a Lot

Mommy said I love you

Mom said I’m busy, don’t bother me

Mom said go play outside

Mom said you’re too short to play basketball

Mommy said I’ll always be there

Mom said I’m going on strike

Mom said it’s Shithead’s [dad] fault 

Mommy said I love you

Mom said your father must not love you

Mom said I’m reading, sleeping, talking, go away, no

Mom said because I said so

Mommy said you’ll always know I love you

Mom said behind my back she’s a manic depressive

Mom said do you want to be like your father?

Mom said you’re just like your father

Mommy said see what a close family we are?

Mom said go to your room

Mommy said you’re such a good girl, not like your brother who is like Shithead

Mom said why can’t you be perfect like your sister?

Mom said it’s all your fault

Mommy said come sit on my lap Mommy stroked my forehead

Mom said come here [to my brother], with a 2” leather belt

Mom said I changed my mind

Mom said don’t go anywhere with your father

Mom said stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry for

Mommy said I’ll tell you the truth

Mom said I’m tired of you

Mom said I don’t like your hair like that

Mom said that’s the wrong color, choice, feeling

Mommy said I’m always here for you

Mom said I don’t want to hear that, deal with it, talk about it

Mom said I never said that

Mom said I don’t remember that

Mommy said I love you

Mom said a lot