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Oxford Languages defines stubborn thus: “having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so.” We are seeing stubbornness on a global scale, to the detriment of all. Yet this column is about couples, so I’ll narrow my focus to…

I’ve been spending a lot more time outdoors, walking, exploring and going on adventures. I’ve noticed I feel better physically and emotionally since increasing my outdoor time and getting more exercise. There are a few basic things we can all do to improve our mood, our health, and in the end, our productivity. Often people…

What do you do when you’ve lost your Mojo? Readers, you may not know it, but aside from writing this column for you, I went through a dry spell in my writing for three years! Yikes. It was really painful for me. I started writing a journal when I was nine or ten years old.…

. . . you must have someone to divide it with.” – Mark Twain Who do you divide joy with? Today has been a rich day, dividing joy with my husband and two of my oldest friends (50 years friends). {IMG 6116.jpg} I saw the Hole in the Head at Bodega Head. I smelled fresh…

I was looking through old journals just now. Some of it was painful to remember, some was joyful. One item I came across was a card from my mother congratulating me on graduating college in preparation to go to grad school to become a therapist. (I left college and eventually went to work in high-tech,…

“If it’s true that we generally don’t know how to grieve personal losses with others in community, then we have no context for grieving communal losses–those that are omnipresent.” Photo by Click @MorgueFile Grief is usually associated with a loss due to death. There are other losses we grieve: loss of a marriage, relationship or…

I’m going to share a piece I wrote in my mid-20s. You will see intergenerational wounds, and part of what I have had to work through in my own life. My husband tells me how amazing it is that I’m “so intact and emotionally available given what I came from”.  You’ll likely a recognize a…

Readers, you’ve often heard me asking, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” Many people get caught up in wanting to be right, or in wanting things to be fair. From what I’ve observed over 18 years of working with clients, those paths do not lead to happiness. They…