. . . cover, defend, guard, protect, screen, shield, ward . . These are synonyms for shelter. But what if you feel stuck in the house with your partner and your unresolved issues? Sheltering These are indeed strange times. We have been ordered to Shelter in Place. This can be an opportunity for your relationship.[…]
It’s possible you each have different thoughts and feelings about the Corona virus and the safety of your family and each other. Maybe you’re on the same page about it. Here’s how to support your beloved. What’s most important is to talk about it with an open mind and curiosity. This allows room for thoughts,[…]
Top 6 Reasons to do Online Therapy 1. Concerns about Coronavirus or other health reasons; have your sessions as a couple or individual from your home or office. 2. Responsibilities at home that make it difficult to travel to an appointment. 3. Embarrassment about seeking help or anxiety about face-to-face appointments. 4. Traffic, or you’re[…]
What Are Your Gifts that Must Be Shared? The following poem was written by an acquaintance of mine who recently died at the young age of 61. What gifts do you have to give to your beloved, to your family, to your work and community, and to the world? Loving another deeply and without judgment[…]
Couples: Do You Have Sex Only on Vacation? Over the years of seeing couples in marriage counseling, and through reading I’ve done, there are many couples who only have sex on vacation. Sex on vacation is great! You’re more relaxed, you’re in a new environment (which stimulates dopamine – the chemical which helps control the[…]
Couple Time and Work Time I hear couples say they are too busy to spend time together. They work too much. I see long, long work hours in every couple who comes in. And it takes a toll. Couples lose connection, communication, and soon after that, their sex life drops off. Seems people are worried[…]
I’ve been sick with a bad cold that has put me back to basics (sleep, eat). My husband is working FT (at a stressful job). My brother in-law is here this week, and my step-sons, too. Normally, I would be taking care of shopping and meals for all, plus doing my work (not quite FT).[…]
The Call for Couples or Marriage Counseling? Communication Communication is the most frequent topic of calls for couples or marriage counseling. My husband/wife doesn’t: – Listen – Understand – Make me a priority – Cherish me – Love me how I want it – Have my back – Want to spend time with me –[…]
Congratulations on your engagement. (To be well set up for a life of marital happiness, and to learn how to deal as a couple with the curveballs life will inevitably throw your way, seek premarital counseling. This link is a list of things to talk about before you get married. You want to know how each[…]
Attachment Let’s start with explaining attachment, which is developed in early childhood, with your primary caregiver. Depending on the type of care you received (consistent, loving & dependable; unreliable in when it would be loving and supportive; or often ignored), this leads to one of three types of attachment: Secure (anchor), anxious (wave), and avoidant[…]