Category: premarital counseling
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Where is Your Focus?
Readers, please follow along with this exercise: Here’s how my lists look today: Three months Six months One Year List ComparisonWhat I’m noticing: there’s overlap between what I thought my focus was on and what I actually did focus on. I’m noticing that my health and migraines weren’t on a bunch of my lists. Yet…
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Silicon Valley Burnout?
Do you see yourself here? It may not go in linear order. If you don’t recognize yourself on this chart, does your partner identify you on it? Your co-workers? Keep your cool if they do! I’m pretty sure you hide it, possibly even from yourself. I encourage you to actually look for it, and take…
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You Married Me Again
About 16 months after we got married, my husband shared the following with me: He realized that for the first time in his life, he is holding nothing back, is giving over control (which is probably an illusion anyway). The risk is complete, and he’s vulnerable. I certainly feel that way about him, too. I…
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“. . . . Sometimes the ones most broken from inside are the ones most willing to help others.”
Tore Kesicki posted on LinkedIn about Keanu Reeves, and it struck me so powerfully that I wanted to share it with you, Readers (see below). No matter what you have been through, you can work on yourself to be healthier, and all of us can help someone else. There are opportunities every day. Some are…
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17 Months and ‘No’ 105 Times = Yes!
I am thrilled to share my great news with you, Readers. To help me bring my I Do, I Don’t: How to Build a Better Marriage series out into the world, at long last, I have a ‘Yes’ from a book agent. I was told ‘No’ 105 times over 17 months! Those are real numbers.…
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When you realize your self-worth, you’ll stop . . .
. . . giving people discounts.” -Karen Salmansohn “In sport, a bye is the preferential status of a player or team that is automatically advanced to the next round of a tournament, without having to play an opponent in an early round.” -Wikipedia Many people will give a “bye” when a person makes a mistake…
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How to Do a Systems Review of Your Relationship
I’ve seen a lot of couples over the years that want to “fix” their marriage. They mostly want to continue doing exactly what they’ve been doing, and somehow have a different outcome. They often figure that if the other person shapes up, all will be well. You both recognize that certain things are not working…
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“A happy marriage is . . .
. . . a long conversation which always seems too short.” Andre Maurois I love this quote for a few reasons. First, let’s look at a couple of definitions: “The noun conversation comes from the Old French word of the same spelling, meaning “manner of conducting oneself in the world.” When you have a conversation…
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Premarital and Couples: Trump Paid $750 in Taxes
At our house, we believe that black lives matter. We believe it’s time to end racism and sexism. We believe that all people matter and it’s time to end hate. What happens if you are a couple divided about politics? What happens if you read in the NY Times that Trump paid $750 in taxes…