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  • “That Sort of Jab Fell Under the Category of Unnecessary Roughness”

    -Claire Cain This line jumped out at me from Cain’s novel. I’m not talking about football. Maybe you know what I mean because you are the recipient of those jabs. Or maybe you’re the one jabbing, and either you know what you’re doing, and keep choosing to jab your partner, or you’re oblivious to your…

  • “No, it just explains it.”

    “I probably saved you from being seriously injured.”Did he expect her to thank him for that? “So you think that excuses your behavior?”“No, it just explains it.” I read this in a Coatney novel recently, and it struck a nerve. Even without the context of the whole interaction, it’s clear she was nonplussed with his…

  • How Did You See Your Parents Treat One Another?

    If you want to know how your partner will treat you under stress, watch how his/her parents treat each other. So, why am I asking you this question? Because what you see growing up is set indelibly in your brain; they’re called neural pathways. And because people behave based on their pathways, even if they…

  • Where is Your Focus?

    Readers, please follow along with this exercise: Here’s how my lists look today: Three months Six months One Year List ComparisonWhat I’m noticing: there’s overlap between what I thought my focus was on and what I actually did focus on. I’m noticing that my health and migraines weren’t on a bunch of my lists. Yet…

  • You Married Me Again

    About 16 months after we got married, my husband shared the following with me: He realized that for the first time in his life, he is holding nothing back, is giving over control (which is probably an illusion anyway). The risk is complete, and he’s vulnerable. I certainly feel that way about him, too. I…

  • When you realize your self-worth, you’ll stop . . .

    . . . giving people discounts.” -Karen Salmansohn “In sport, a bye is the preferential status of a player or team that is automatically advanced to the next round of a tournament, without having to play an opponent in an early round.” -Wikipedia Many people will give a “bye” when a person makes a mistake…

  • Taking or Receiving in a Marriage or Relationship

    I’ve been sick with a bad cold that has put me back to basics (sleep, eat). My husband is working FT (at a stressful job). My brother in-law is here this week, and my step-sons, too. Normally, I would be taking care of shopping and meals for all, plus doing my work (not quite FT).…

  • Engagement Rings: Myths and Options

    Congratulations on your engagement. (To be well set up for a life of marital happiness, and to learn how to deal as a couple with the curveballs life will inevitably throw your way, seek premarital counseling. This link is a list of things to talk about before you get married. You want to know how each…

  • Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage

    Wasband: How to Retain Your Marriage This is my new word for the week. A husband who no longer is married to you is a wasband. Does waswife work as well? Do you want to retain your marriage? In order to avoid having a wasband or waswife, you do actually have to work on your…

  • “Housewife” a Journey of Transgender Marriage

    “Housewife” a Journey of Transgender Marriage Kristin Collier’s new book, Housewife: Home Remaking in a Transgender Marriage is a must read for any couple going through this transition. When Kristin’s husband, Fred, announced just after their second child was born in 2005, after ten years of a good, close, communicative marriage, that he is a…