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Author: chandrama

  • Don’t Wait Till Your Child is 42 to Say “I’m Proud of You.”

    I was looking through old journals just now. Some of it was painful to remember, some was joyful. One item I came across was a card from my mother congratulating me on graduating college in preparation to go to grad school to become a therapist. (I left college and eventually went to work in high-tech,…

  • Silicon Valley Burnout?

    Do you see yourself here? It may not go in linear order. If you don’t recognize yourself on this chart, does your partner identify you on it? Your co-workers? Keep your cool if they do! I’m pretty sure you hide it, possibly even from yourself. I encourage you to actually look for it, and take…

  • You Married Me Again

    About 16 months after we got married, my husband shared the following with me: He realized that for the first time in his life, he is holding nothing back, is giving over control (which is probably an illusion anyway). The risk is complete, and he’s vulnerable. I certainly feel that way about him, too. I…

  • “. . . . Sometimes the ones most broken from inside are the ones most willing to help others.”

    Tore Kesicki posted on LinkedIn about Keanu Reeves, and it struck me so powerfully that I wanted to share it with you, Readers (see below). No matter what you have been through, you can work on yourself to be healthier, and all of us can help someone else. There are opportunities every day. Some are…

  • 17 Months and ‘No’ 105 Times = Yes!

    I am thrilled to share my great news with you, Readers. To help me bring my I Do, I Don’t: How to Build a Better Marriage series out into the world, at long last, I have a ‘Yes’ from a book agent. I was told ‘No’ 105 times over 17 months! Those are real numbers.…

  • From Crazy in Love to Love of My Life

    Photo by Mojo @ MorgueFile Dear Readers, this is the first post I wrote to you on CouplesNet. I wanted to share it once again so you will be thinking of the love of your life as you did in your beginning. I know there’s been a lot of water under the bridge. Let yourself…

  • When you realize your self-worth, you’ll stop . . .

    . . . giving people discounts.” -Karen Salmansohn “In sport, a bye is the preferential status of a player or team that is automatically advanced to the next round of a tournament, without having to play an opponent in an early round.” -Wikipedia Many people will give a “bye” when a person makes a mistake…

  • Omnipresent Grief

    “If it’s true that we generally don’t know how to grieve personal losses with others in community, then we have no context for grieving communal losses–those that are omnipresent.” Photo by Click @MorgueFile Grief is usually associated with a loss due to death. There are other losses we grieve: loss of a marriage, relationship or…

  • Mom Said a Lot

    I’m going to share a piece I wrote in my mid-20s. You will see intergenerational wounds, and part of what I have had to work through in my own life. My husband tells me how amazing it is that I’m “so intact and emotionally available given what I came from”.  You’ll likely a recognize a…

  • Being Understood vs. Being Right

    Readers, you’ve often heard me asking, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” Many people get caught up in wanting to be right, or in wanting things to be fair. From what I’ve observed over 18 years of working with clients, those paths do not lead to happiness. They…